Are you able to control your destiny? Oh, because it is said, I cannot control it? There is surely such a way of thinking.
However, Jack Welch (former General Electric Co. p.l.c.’s chairperson) said like this:
“Your destiny should be controlled by yourself. Otherwise it will be controlled by somebody.”
If you were able to control your destiny by yourself, what kind of future would be waiting for you?
Therefore I will tell you 7 methods for your better life to control your destiny.

7 ways to control destiny for better life 

1: Understand what the destiny is

What is a “destiny” on earth? I will consult a dictionary obediently here.
1) Power to transcend a will of a human being and give the fortune or the misfortune. And conjuncture of the fortune or misfortune circulated by the power. Luck. “the act of -” “Follow -“
2) The course in the future. What happens to the future? “- of the nation”
From goo dictionary

If it transcends to a will of a human being as (1), unfortunately it seems to be difficult to control it.
However, if it is as (2), how? Do you feel to be able to control it by yourself?
What do I want to be in the future? What is my better life for me?
At first it looks good to begin to think about it.

2: Make clear “what the better life for yourself is”

At first you should make clear “what the better life is” for yourself. Otherwise when you try to control your destiny, it occurs to waver because your goal is not clear.
If the control occurs to waver, we cannot call it the control anymore. The destiny leaves from your control. Therefore you should keep it here.

Please ask yourself like this: “If it is what kind of life, can I say ‘My life was much better’ when I die?”
If you “do not to want to think about dying,” you can have the following method. You enumerate the contents which you think “Such a life is best!” on paper earnestly.
Your better life will become clear by doing so.

3: Make up your mind to change your life

James Allen wrote as follows:
“You can change your life by power of your own splendidly…”
“It is somewhat serious to change a life… “
“There are personality or the things that I was born with, aren’t they?”
“Is it impossible to control a destiny after all?”
You who think so, you do not need to change all immediately.
At first you play an ideal human being in the ideal life.
James Allen recommends the self-control. Unfortunately it is not self-control to play. However, you can accustom yourself to the situation by playing it. If you get used to playing, you stop it step by step and should begin self-control.
To that end, it is important for you to determination to change yourself at first.

4: Begin to part with if you want to obtain

Have you ever heard such words?
“You part with attachment.”
You attach your mind to something unconsciously. Have you an experience to think as follows?
“A must be B, mustn’t it?”
“But I have failed before. I am afraid to fail again.”
“I want C by all means…”
“What should I do if the person disappears? I might have any trouble…”
In fact, these all are attachments. Besides, it becomes ingrained as a habit because you do it unconsciously while you do not notice it.

It is a knack to control a destiny to part with such attachments. At first you should begin to notice “you deeply attach.”

5: Do not attach your mind to abandon the attachment

“Did you say the reverse of what you said a little while ago?” You may think so. It is no problem. When you look letters only, it may surely look mysterious Japanese.
However it is a very important thing.
“I would like to part with attachment! I part with it now!” It is all right to get all fired up. You may be apt to attach you mind to part with attachments with putting your heart into parting with them.
Then attachments would occur unconsciously and your destiny could be controlled by attachments.
At first, please notice “you who think you must abandon attachments and who are doing it too eagerly.” You have already abandoned about a half of them if you can notice it.

6: Think positively

A human being is a creature which easily falls into a negative spiral.
Have you an experience like this?
If you meet an unpleasant thing, in the aftermath you remember the unpleasant one you have met before, and remember it one after another… And you take a dislike to yourself and your life. This is just the situation falling into a negative spiral.
It is hardly possible to control your destiny in the situation falling into a negative spiral. At first it is important to get away if you fall into it.
After it, you should take your thought afterwards to the positive direction step by step.
If a positive person is depressed, don’t you think he makes a recovery at once? That is to say, it is such a thing.
You can make it easy to control your destiny with making a habit of thinking about things positively.

7: Get conscious about unconsciousness

Karl Jung, the famous psychologist, said like this:
“Unless you are conscious of unconsciousness, it controls your life. And you call it destiny.”
It is terrible if it is true. It is a fact that our lives are controlled by unconsciousness.
However, there is also the help at the same time. Because we can control our life with our consciousness if we can change unconsciousness to consciousness.
Have you an experience like this?
“I have done it carelessly…”
“I would not actually say such a thing…”
“Oh, it is my habit…”
“It is always like that, somehow…”
All these are results of choosing an action with unconsciousness. The life is a series of decision.
If you decide your action in this way: just carelessly, in a habit, or somehow, it is more than your controlling your destiny.
Will you begin with the stage to decide things consciously?
When you decide a thing “carelessly,” you should start from the stage to stop yourself.

How about things mentioned above?

While you go on reading the article, you may have been surprised with something. You may not go ahead before you do not think well. However, you come to be able to control your destiny by repeating one by one.
You control your destiny with your hand by all means. Please do not forget the strong will.

Summary

7 ways to control destiny for better life 

1: Understand what the destiny is
2: Make clear “what the better life for yourself is”
3: Make up your mind to change your life
4: Begin to part with if you want to obtain
5: Do not attach your mind to abandon the attachment
6: Think positively
7: Get conscious about unconsciousness