Have you ever heard of the song which goes　” when you’re happy, the happiness brings another friend of happiness to experience all these positive feelings together”.

The writer of the song is unknown, but they say the song was popular from the early Showa era to toward the end of the Meiji era. As the song says, a link of “Happiness” is circled.

So, this song meant if you make “happiness” as a link in the chain of life, “happiness” finds its way back to you. Wouldn’t it be lovely if “happiness” was brought to you every day? What’s more, those days making us pessimistic would come to an end and you would be able to love yourself more.

But the thing is, what can we do?  Here, we are going to introduce 9 simple tips.

9 Tips How To Love Yourself More by joy

No1. Receive a share of happiness

Smiling is contagious. So, approach people who are looking happy, and receive a share of happiness from them. If you have a wedding hall nearby, you’re lucky. Let’s receive a share of happiness when there is a ceremony being held.

It’s simple, all you have to do is get close to the hall and see the happy people,
or just whispering in your mind ”Congratulations” while listening to wedding bells will also do.  Perfect if you can happily do it with a smile on your face.

Being able to congratulate on someone else’s happiness will surely make you more lovable to yourself.

 No.2 Seek your past good deeds

Find at least, two “good things” before you start working in the morning and before you sleep at night. Such simple things such as the following will be fine.

“ I could get a seat on the train, the train was on time, the food tasted great, I got a bargain at the grocery store.”

Make a habit of finding a small happiness and be grateful for those. It will surely be lovely to find yourself having the ability to appreciate small happiness this way, rather than grumbling all the time

No3. Make it a habit to say “Thank you”

“I’m sorry” the phrase is frequently used by Japanese, having a reputation for being humble.

But if you’re to say something at all, “Thank you” will make others feel better.
To make happiness as a link in chain the life, let’s refrain yourself from saying “I’m sorry” starting today.

And instead, use “ Thank you” . The phrase will eventually be returned to you. Wouldn’t
It be lovely if you received the word gift of “Thank you” on everyday basis? Surely, would make you more lovable to yourself.

 No4. Let’s share simple happiness with other people.

Let’s share simple happiness with other people in some way. You may want to mail your friends, post on SNS, well, do it just by any way you think of.

For example, a simple mail or post attached with a photograph of a lovely sky that reads, “When I looked up at the sky without thinking much it was so beautiful that helped me unwind.”

Beautiful scenery heals our mind, the photograph you posted will heal the hearts of those that looked at it, and the feeling of “Happiness” will be linked. Finding yourself doing something good for others is kind of nice, isn’t it?

No5, Let’s appreciate things taken for granted 

Be thankful for things that have been taken for granted. Things such as the fact that you have no physical defect, are healthy and so are your other family members, you have a job and someone that prepares meals for you. If you’re too shy to express your gratitude towards people, then, how about starting with expressing towards your god? You may want to say something like, “I’m in good health every day, thank you.”

And let’s move on to telling people once you’ve got used to it.

No6. Let’s turn bad things into “good things.”

When something bad happens, we naturally feel down. Let’s try to turn it into good thing. For starters, it doesn’t matter if you have to force yourself to. Here is an example.

The sweets I bought for the first time tasted aweful.-> I learned a lesson this time. The experience helped me become more savvy in making the right choice of sweets.

I made a blunder at work -> I’m glad that I did while I’m still young. -> I’m glad to have found a way that doesn’t work out.
For those who have difficulty turning bad things into “good things”, let’s start with replacing them by “ they were still better than XXXX”.

No.7 Make it a habit to smile more.

When you greet someone, answer a phone or when you are asked a favor …etc. just on any occasion, let’s make it a habit to smile when you reply. Your smile will naturally bring a smile to the person you’re talking to. If that succeeds, you’ve got it! A link of happiness’s already started with you. Smiles will find their way back to you.

No.8 Write down some things that are good about who you are

“I can easily point out negative traits in myself but it’s difficult when it comes to pointing out positive traits in myself.” Such thing is frequently heard among people.

The modesty is a virtue Japanese people possess but try to accept the good positive traits you have in yourself, all for the sake of making happiness as a link in chain the life.

The step is simple, negative traits are positive if you put them in the other way. If this seems too difficult, you may want to write down the negative traits, you believe, you have in yourself and then rephrase them with more positive words.

Here are the examples.
I’m stingy -> I take good care of things.  I tend to hold back my opinion. -> I respect others’ opinions. My personality is rough.-> I’m large minded, I don’t fuss over small things.  Being aware of the many positive traits you have in yourself doesn’t make you more lovable to yourself?

No.9 Let’s say “Thank you” to yourself

It may feel strange to express gratitude to yourself but it’s not like someone is going to tell you if you wait around. So, let’s expand your happiness by saying “thank you” to yourself.

What we thank for can be the things being taken for granted, for example, I thank my body that worked hard today. I thank my face that makes smiles.
I thank myself for having the strength that enabled me to deal with ghastly time at the client’s office.

How was the article?

That’s all for how to make yourself more happy by making happiness as a link in the chain of life. I bet they were all simple. There may have been something you feel shy to get into action, but I will be happy if you try even by little by little.
Sharing this article with other people will also make circle of “happiness” and “Joys”.

summary

9 Tips How To Love Yourself More by joy

No.1. Receive a share of happiness.
No.2 Seek your past good deeds.
No.3. Make it a habit to say “Thank you”
No.4. Let’s share simple happiness with other people.
No.5, Let’s appreciate things taken for granted
No.6. Let’s turn bad things into “good things.”
No.7 Make it a habit to smile more.
No.8 Write down some things that are good about who you are.
No.9 Let’s say “Thank you” to yourself.