For those who repeat heartbreaks with similar period, for similar reason, and with similar process…what is the problem? Followings are 7 similar personalities and characteristics of people who repeat same heartbreak patterns. Do you see something in common?

To change your tears to a smile, let’s find clues for not repeating again!

7 common peronalities of those repeat same heartbreak patterns

-Your problem 1. Stop thinking at the point “why?”

“I always breakup with same pattern”, “this time again”, “why?”…this is a typical conversation, but what is important is after this. Those who seriously think about the cause to “get out” of the situation will be on the bright side, but many women stop thinking at “why?”.

Happiness with love is what you need to achieve by yourself, not something that someone gives you. Don’t you give up on thinking? Don’t you giving up on yourself?

You may think that it will get better sometime, but you need to make that “sometime” by yourself or time will just pass by. “Not knowing about yourself” or “not trying to know” is fetal not only in love but also in life. Look back to yourself once at this moment.

-Your problem 2. “This is what I am”

Your flaw is pointed out and breakup. Cry, depressed, and start new love, but it ends the same. This is very typical as well. “He was a intolerant man who can’t love what I am!” No way!!

It is true sometimes, but can you really put your flaws as a way as it is now? Don’t you think that being pointed out by many people means it is really a problem?

To accept the way you are doesn’t mean you don’t need to make any effort to be more attractive. Accept with humility and make an effort to fix it.

-Your problem 3. “What good am I?”

People with low self-affirmation often say without notice “he is with a person like me”, “I’m no good”, and make them lower than their partner. As a result, they become dependent on their partner, act in the way to be loved, and check the opinion of their partner.

Couples should be equal in their relationship, but they are just being convenient women or too dependent or annoying women. At the end, they are controlled by their partners and abandoned. Even then, they think “we broke up because I’m no good”, and can’t get out of negative chain.

The cause can be looked back to childhood, but the first thing is not to think “my partner is not forced to be with me”. This is rude to your partner who has selected you.

He is not with you for sympathy, but because he loves who you are. It is difficult for you to be confident for yourself if you have negative thoughts, so try slowly at you own pace. You can start doing new things or what you can be enthusiastic about. Let’s try from not to think “what good am I?”

-Your problem 4. “You are like acting with a plot”

You know your weak points and can honestly understand the things pointed out by others. However, you are abandoned with your “bad habit” everytime you love someone. You know clearly the cause of failure, but can’t avoid repeating it. In psychology, this situation is called “plot”.

As thouogh you are acting along the plot, you always act with “plot” of “failing by showing your bad habit”.

To get out of this negative chain, you need to analyze yourself and make an effort to change. Though it is not easy to change yourself, start with knowing the tendency of your love.

-Your problem 5. “It’s a shame not having a boyfriend”

Some people try to have a boyfriend before the event of each seasons, because they think it is a shame not to have a partner. I can understand that it is more fun to spend time as a couple rather than alone, but please realize that you are just wanting “boyfriend” as a charm.

It is nonsense that there is a limit to succeed in love. Those who can cherish the time with their partner and have longer relationship can also make good use of time alone as well.

Because they know the importance of time being alone, they can respect the time of their partner. It is interesting that the love you attract when you are in haste often won’t last long. Please stop feeling ashamed for not having a partner.

-Partner’s problem 1. Only looking your outward show

I’ve been talking about your problems, but not everyrhing is your fault. There are problems with your partner as well. For example, things I mentioned above were “true about your partner”.

No matter how hard you try, it is no use if your partner can’t get over with their problems. However, experiencing similar situation everytime means you have something to attract same kind of people.

Please think about common points in people you are attracted. You will see what kind of men you like. Next, analyze how you were treating and communicating with them.

Now you will see the pattern of your failure for each time. Maybe just being kind and sweet is not good. Maybe you should have told the honest feeling. When you have reached here, only thing is to make it better.

-Problem for both. Not good to be together as a couple.

Becoming a couple from friends is a common case, but being good friends doesn’t always mean being a good couple. This is not what you can analyze, it is what you “couldn’t tell until you become a couple”.

It is the result you couldn’t see until you step forward. You can’t help. You can say that it is not your fault nor your partner’s. If you could learn something, then it is not the waste of time.

Did you like it?

I have mentioned from what you can improve to what you can do nothing about. Some of you might felt depressed that “it was my fault”, but to get depressed means you are understanding the problem objectively. You can surely get out of the same pattern of crying over heartbreaks.

You have loved someone. Why don’t you learn something from it. Don’t waste your experience. Cry as much as you need and heal yourself, then think about the plan not to repeat the same thing again. “Gather ye rosebud while ye may!” The life is short, so love someone. I hope you can love someone with big smile, and keep that relation forever.

Summary

7 common peronalities of those repeat same heartbreak patterns

-Your problem 1. Stop thinking at the point “why?”
-Your problem 2. “This is what I am”
-Your problem 3. “What good am I?”
-Your problem 4. “You are like acting with a plot”
-Your problem 5. “It’s a shame not having a boyfriend”
-Partner’s problem 1. Only looking your outward show
-Problem for both. Not good to be together as a couple.